About shyness and shame

First of all, let’s discuss what is shyness. Shyness is the thought that EVERYONE IS LOOKING AT YOU. For example when you step up in the class as a student, everyone is looking at you or when you speak everyone watches you. So you have less chance of standing up and speak – because when ever you want this, you will immediately think that you are standing in front of the crowd full of people and everyone is watching you without a blinking. The worst fear about this is the chance of doing some embarrassing thing and everyone will be laughing at you thinking that you are a stupid loser.

Shy people must understand the following thing:

Really NOBODY is giving a damn what are you doing or who you are! You aren’t stars chased restlessly by cameras! Even if this sounds a little hard: for 99,999999% of people you are NOBODY! Think about this for a second. You take a walk on the streets, you fell, you think this is embarrassing. Maybe 10 people is looking at you, 3 of them will be laughing at you but if you stand up and walk away, 20 seconds later nobody will remember you. Everyone has their own problems and things to do. Everyone is thinking about his stuff like “I hope I won’t get late“, “When will my freakin’ bus arrive?“, “What should I watch in the cinema?” or “I can’t remember if my exam will be on Monday or on Tuesday“. Thoughts and questions like this will make people forget about you and everything will be like nothing has happened.

Even better if you just laugh when in an embarrassing situation like this! believe me: *ONLY* those situations are embarrassing, that YOU (!!) think is embarrassing! So when your belt gives up itself on the streets and your pants leave you in trouble you can do:

1. Feel yourself embarrassed and shame yourself whole day
2. Laugh on it and later you tell it to your friends and you have a good time laughing on it

Not to mention: If you laugh on an embarrassing situation, others will see how easy you can handle things and won’t bring your blood pressure to the sky. This will make you grow in other people eye (especially in the eyes of women), because this will show a sign of good self-confidence.

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